Self Respect - the Work

Self respect is commitment. It’s not just something you do subconsciously – it doesn’t come naturally Especially not for a person that usually leads with emotion.

The true test is when the emotions tell you to go against what you now KNOW to be true.

At that point it takes everything in you to choose yourself.

At that point it’s your emotion versus your health.

Before we even talk about your worth – because that can be exhausting all on its own.

It’s about your health… your mental health, your peace…

So your emotions, vulnerable as they are, tempt you to go to that place you KNOW you shouldn’t

And they promise you a temporary filling of a deeper void inside…

At that point, you have to actually put in the work.

The work means choosing the long term over the short term.

That’s when you learn that self respect is a commitment, and not just any commitment-

But it’s giving yourself the commitment that they didn’t give to you.

The commitment that you want from them – you have to give to yourself…

And that takes everything in you, because it’s so easy to want third party confirmation,

But right now you have to believe that your word is enough, what you say about yourself is enough

And that’s hard work… but If you don’t do it, just know that you won’t find it in them either.